Our parents pass down their unresolved trauma and their coping mechanisms.
Many of us have emotionally immature parents who didn’t provide the space to fully develop a sense of self. We witnessed: dysfunctional relationships or dynamics that have an impact.
We rely on our parents for our physical, emotional, and spiritual development. We’re born fully dependent on them.
The truth is most of our parents never learned to: meet their own needs, let alone another person’s needs.
We’ve all heard the ugly things three of my colleagues said on the infamous tapes. It is also important to remember what they did. The legislation they killed, stalled or weakened. The laws and programs they stopped that would've helped people. The bad policies they passed.🧵— Mike Bonin (@mikebonin) October 19, 2022
There are plenty of ways to stand out as a junior engineer without taking a back seat. A few that worked for me:1. When you’re faced with an unfamiliar problem, break it down into smaller problems. You might even recognize pieces that you already know how to solve.— Holly Borla (@hollyborla) October 19, 2022
Olivia Wilde shares her infamous salad dressing recipe on Instagram, which she got from a book.
Her former nanny claimed Olivia made the “special salad dressing” for Harry Styles, which led to a fight between her and Jason Sudeikis. https://t.co/7antnKoZiC
disgusting man with an evil face if alvin and the chipmunks were real he would exploit them and keep them in a tiny cage with cocaine in the water bottle so they’d form an addiction and depend on him https://t.co/kcisXPrCTa
James Corden has been banned from an NYC restaurant after owner Keith McNally accused him of being “extremely nasty” to his staff on multiple occasions:
“[He was] the most abusive customer to my Balthazar servers since the restaurant opened 25 years ago.” https://t.co/ZF8tIEH9cu
OS built for creative flow—reinvented clipboard, content over apps, easier asset sharing, browser as part of OS.— Andy Allen (@asallen) October 10, 2022
The sad part here is, whether we like it or not, we’ve all been lumped into “average” by merely having the option btwn 2 choices. There is no OS for the design-oriented person or the minimalist or the tinkerer. None of us are “average” and thus all let down in our own way.— Andy Allen (@asallen) October 17, 2022
while I appreciate the purpose of inclusivity, suggesting that the design of a font could benefit dyslexic readers wrongly implies that dyslexia is solely an optical/visual condition, rather than a cognitive one. https://t.co/T1yRSPfIgQ
These documentary filmmakers made a police officer watch footage about the people he coerced into false confessions and wrongful convictions. He starts having a meltdown pic.twitter.com/IdpFpWMt1E— chris evans (@notcapnamerica) October 17, 2022
no scene has impressed me more than this. just a song and a look, but the thought process he shows us without a word is so fucking cool pic.twitter.com/8UvwzzWdG4— laura 🦠 (@ecto_fun) October 16, 2022
@HOTDsource Alicent just reminds me of so many real life women who frustrate me supporting patriarchal oppression, silencing rape victims while claiming to be morally superior. I can’t stand her, but feel bad for her at the same time. She could have been good, but dad brainwashed her.
If you were “mature for their age” you might have been parentified. Parentification is when a child is made to fill an adult role. This is an “invisible” trauma that has life long impact. HERE’S WHY: 🧵— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) October 16, 2022
Parentification is an extremely common family dynamic where children are expected to: manage their parents emotions or issues (most common is marital problems), take care of the home & siblings on a regular basis, or act as a peer to a parent.
Children adapt quickly to this role. They learn they must betray their own needs, desires, & emotions to keep the connection to a parent.
Many children feel a fierce sense of loyalty to the parent thats parentifying them.
They want to fix, rescue, & protect that parent. It’s a true role reversal.
alright Twitter hit me with all your “why am I always tired?” curesI eat well, I sleep consistently and at sensible times, I work out every day, I minimise light at bad times of dayit’s been a while since I did a blood test, but they have always been finewhat am I missing— Michael Ashcroft (@m_ashcroft) October 16, 2022